March 8, 2013

A Guaranteed Solution To Your People Problems

I once did a survey on Facebook, where I asked, "What is the biggest challenge you have with people?" The top answers were really interesting. They were dealing with betrayal, […]

I once did a survey on Facebook, where I asked, "What is the biggest challenge you have with people?" The top answers were really interesting. They were dealing with betrayal, negative people, people not saying what they mean, and trusting people.

What I noticed about these answers is they all seem to be about other people. But the reason we have these challenges is actually not because of the other person. It’s because we think we can change people. That is so far from the truth!

Here’s what I know: Many are called to lead, but few will step up, learn, and be equipped on how to deal with people. Very few will make that investment. And what exactly is that investment? It’s being with me on Monday nights for our live Strategy Call and on Sunday nights and Wednesdays for our radio show, where I give live training to help you continue to grow in every area of your life.

It’s joining me at First Steps to Success, where I actually teach step-by-step exactly how to work with people, live with people, do business with people. I teach how to succeed in relationships and in your family.

And it’s reading these Daily Fix emails every day. Not just deleting them from your inbox, but actually applying the tips and strategies I share with you.

Like I said, many are called to lead, but very few will make the investment to learn how to deal with people. If you are reading this right now, it’s because you are called to step up as a leader in your company, family, or community. We won’t know who the few are until we see the results…

So you saw the top challenges people reported. And here is my answer to that…

Quit trying to change people! You cannot change other people. You can only change how you deal with people. Do not try to change your spouse, your kids, your co-workers, or your clients. Learn how to motivate their strengths and train up their weaknesses without condemnation.

You must begin to honor the people around you. Focus on building them up and creating good, harmonious relationships. Be part of a rare breed of people who is achieving success and wealth while honoring others! This means NOT trying to change people to be what YOU think they should be.

In fact, change starts with you.

The challenges you have with people are not because they can’t communicate or because they are negative. NO! The challenges you have with people are because of the way YOU deal with them. It’s the way you react to them, their issues, and their communication skills.

If you have conflicts with people in your office, family, church, or community, there is only one way that is guaranteed to fix it: Change how you deal with the people around you!

The reality is, people around you often reflect your attitude, your insecurities, and your issues. If you are suspicious, unfriendly, and condescending, you will find those traits all around you. You are a product of your environment.

So let’s go back to those challenges I told you about earlier, and I want to show you what I’m talking about…

Betrayal – Have you betrayed the people around you? Have you followed through and done the things you said you would do? Have you gossiped about them?

Dealing with negative people – Are you positive? Do you let negativity slip out of your mouth? Are you sarcastic, or are you supportive? Do you speak life or death? Do you speak excuses, or do you speak results?

People not saying what they mean – Do you always say what you mean? Do you sugar-coat the truth? Do you exaggerate or stretch the truth? Do you only tell people what they want to hear?

Trusting people – Are you trustworthy? Do people feel that they can trust you? Are you honest?

The point I’m trying to make here is that it’s important to look in the mirror first. You can either blame all of your people problems on the people around you, or you can be one of the few who will step up and make the investment to increase your skills with people. And when you increase your people skills, you decrease your stress, save money, and increase your income.

And that, my friend, is something we could all use! So would you please take just a minute to share this message with the people around you? You can massively increase your influence in your company and community by simply sharing this post on Facebook and Twitter. And please also leave your comments here! I’d love to know what you think about today’s message, and how you think you can apply it in your life.

I so appreciate you, and I’m looking forward to connecting with you again soon! Until next time, God bless!


In great faith,


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  1. Lenore Jordan March 8, 2013

    Wow….I love self reflection and sometimes we get so caught up into people, places and things! This post helps me to re-direct my inner emotions and understand where they really are coming from. Lots of times for me…..I simply need to get back to the throne room of prayer and release a lot of burdens there. Then when I come out I can actually deal with situations from a heavenly perspective and not be so emotional!…….Thanks for this powerful post….I am truly blessed today for having blessed people like you Dani Johnson!!

  2. Michael Hicks March 8, 2013

    You are a product of your environment.

    Wow. That’s a really powerful message.

    If we follow that line of thought, that means we can change
    ourselves by changing our environment and the people we
    associate with. That’s exactly what I’ve done. It was painful.
    As a matter of fact, it was VERY painful. But I did it.
    And I’m better off for doing so….

    Thanks for reinforcing the message, Dani. I can always count
    on you to shoot straight and speak right from the heart.
    Have an AWESOME weekend!!!

  3. Ingela March 9, 2013

    Thanks for reminding me of what is the most important things in life. Be gentle to others and always have a big heart.Try to understand, why people do what they do, say what they say.And if I dont agree with them, reflect on my own thoughts on that issue You whant to “change”, and why?. Be so supported I can be on the poeple in my environment. Let them feel your true LOVE anyway. Be the best women I whant to be, Kind, supportive, full of good energi, and love. And i must always reflecting on my own thoughts in many areas in life. I want to send YOU and YOUR FAMILY much LOVE and BLESSINGS in LIFE, and thank you for so much help and your beautiful spirit!
    Ingela in Stockholm SWEDEN. : ) (sorry for my bad spelling)

  4. Marion March 11, 2013

    Hi Dani. I loved your post. It has taken me years and a lot of heartache to learn this message. I constantly tried to change my husband, my children, my employees because I thought I knew what was best for them. I hated the sin in them (that God had so graciously removed in me bit by bit). But I could not let them grow at their own pace and make their own mistakes and have their own path and goals for life. I ended up with a divorce, financial poverty and totally depressed and lost my faith in God. So thank you for reminding me today the only person I can change is ME and also reminding me that I stand today only by Gods Grace. Have a wonderful blessed day. Xx