I have been studying people for over 2 decades. I watch people and pay attention to their words, their actions, their habits, what they respond to, and what makes them tick.
As I have studied and analyzed people through the years, I have found that there are certain characteristics that all successful people have in common. (And there are characteristics that all unsuccessful people share, as well.)
One thing that I have noticed is that highly successful people have a very unusual way of dealing with issues that arise in their lives. When something goes wrong, when something doesn’t go according to plan, when they make a mistake, they do not freak out! They do not get offended. They do not dig their heels in and refuse to move forward. They do not quit.
They take personal responsibility.
The reality is, things go wrong sometimes. It happens. It’s inevitable! Your prospects change their mind about getting involved in your business. Your client decides to take their business elsewhere. You lose your job. Taxes are raised and your paycheck is lower. You find out someone in your office is gossiping about you behind your back. Your children get into trouble at school. You get into an argument with your spouse.
What is your response? How do you react? Do you get offended? Do you blame your prospects? Blame your clients? Your boss? The government? Your co-workers? Your kids? Your spouse?
Stop blaming other people. Stop getting offended! That is a very low level of leadership. It is a very low level of maturity.
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A highly successful person knows that taking offense does not help them to succeed. It does not provide opportunities for them. Highly successful people know that taking offense actually severely limits their opportunities.
You see, when things go wrong, you have a choice to make. You can get your chonies in a wad and throw a 2-year-old temper tantrum. Or you can choose to be a mature adult and take responsibility.
Taking responsibility means you do not wait for someone else to do something for you or to make things right. It means you take things into your own hands and make things happen.
I have to tell you, I truly believe that anything is possible. There is always a way, always a work-around. But if you get offended and throw a fit every time something doesn’t work out, you will never find it.
The bottom line is this: If you take offense, you are losing opportunity. If you take responsibility, you are maximizing opportunity. One keeps you stuck, and the other positions you for massive growth.
So which one are you? Will you take offense or take responsibility?
I can’t wait to see what you do with this. As I have studied people over the last 24 years, I have seen many very successful people who know this very simple, yet very effective strategy. I believe you can be one of them. It’s so simple… All you have to do is follow directions!
So that’s it for me today. Until next time, God bless!
In great faith,
This is sooo good. Just this one gem is what I really needed to hear. I just keep learning more and more as we go along together Dani. Thanks for not giving up on me and continuing to believe and invest in my success!
Great article Dani! May I interject that some leaders in mlm or newbie leaders as well, fail miserably at actually mentoring. Some have real challenges with the phone, others with talking to strangers etc. Personally, I prefer strangers to those I already know. However, in the business world, my former corporate career – I trained my new employee by showing them what to do, letting them watch me answer the phone calls, take people on sales tours etc. Yet, somehow in mlm we just “say” this is how to do it so go do it and wonder why we lose our team. Some have been very hurt, wounded, rejected in recent years with the economy and it takes a financial, mental and emotional toll…we can either really help this economy and those people by getting in there with them or not, it’s hard work but it will pay off in the long run if only more of us would do it. Too many sadly, do not know what it’s like to go from $ to poverty and no money for gasoline, toilet paper, food for your pet, car insurance etc. Don’t let those in our society who have been through this…stay that way. Make the time with one person at least, each month with a commitment of X amount of hours and you will be richly rewarded or leave them in poverty with broken hearts, lives and dreams while you are off bragging about your success which is pathetic in my opinion. Too many are very wounded and we have an opportunity to restore them, they are not all scammers, broke minded, or lacking personal development…they were once very successful and have had door after door closed when interviewing and are a bit lost, broken and without funds. If you are bragging about your mlm income or other and you pass up this person or leave them and don’t follow through when they made the effort to join…how do you sleep at night?
Thank you for sending me this message today. I was just about to take offence toward a person, but after reading this message I decide to take the responsible and ask myself what have I contribute to this person to help make a change in the lives of other. I will take responsible as a leader and help change the lives of other and stop looking at why she didn’t think about me as her Real Estate Agent. Thank you Dani for change my life and helping me opening eyes to become a leader in the Real Estate industry.
So needed to hear this. Thank you for reminding me to be humble.
ANSWER TO REBECCA HIGGINS:
I believe it is akin to not being sucked in by your own emotions. They are such unreliable and fleeting things that are influenced by other unreliable and fleeting things like: misunderstanding, overactive pride, spiritual immaturity, past hurts, arrogance, etc. Just because a feeling comes up in response to a perceived wrong, doesn’t mean we ought to “wear” that feeling like a piece of armour before going in to attack the person(s) who provoked it. We are to be sober minded and self-controlled and forgiving and unhypocritcally honest….Look how many times we have sinned against the Almighty and HE is obviously complete and Loving and all-knowing…So, how can we even “fix our mouths” to be so indiginant when someone offends/”sins” against us who are sooo very imperfect?