October 17, 2013
Take Life — & People — With A Grain Of Salt
Have you ever been let down? If you’re human and you interact with people at all, chances are it’s happened to you. And it can really be heartbreaking when others […]
Have you ever been let down? If you’re human and you interact with people at all, chances are it’s happened to you.
And it can really be heartbreaking when others disappoint you, right? Sometimes it is literally heartbreaking and you end up crying or typing furiously updating your social media status about how you’ve just had it with people! “ARRGH, people just make me sick today!”
It’s true… people will always let you down. They disappoint us. They make totally selfish decisions sometimes and they just don’t always live up to your standards. Guess what? It’s because they aren’t living by your standards!
Do you simply not understand the actions of some people?
The truth, is not everyone shares the same opinions, motivations or values. So when someone makes a decision, sometimes we totally don’t understand it! And some of these people are your close family and friends. What if you got your hands on an easy “Personality X-Ray” that could help you finally gain insight into why the heck people act the way they do?
Whether you realize it or not, every person is different. They each have their own motivations, values and goals. And nobody (that’s right, including you!) is perfect. People are allowed to make their own mistakes!
Today I want to encourage you not to take offense when others act selfishly. Even if it hurts you, chances are it was NOT the conscious intention of the other person to do so. They operate by their motives, not yours, and you can’t control that.
Sometimes we create these images of family and friends as awesome and perfect people and then when they inevitably make even a little misstep, we are always let down. You might not understand their values, but it doesn’t mean they’re purposely trying to let you down.
Here are two tips to help when it feels like everyone is just out to get you:
- Grace: In your relationships, you need to have a little grace! People don’t always know where your boundaries are, what offends you, or what situations might trigger emotions reminding you of things from your past.
- Guard Your Heart: Especially in times of change, the behavior of some people may seem erratic, offensive or unforgiveable. You don’t have to take offense! You can choose not to accept it!
Sometimes we tend to give a Level-10 reaction to a Level-2 offense. I do it and if you think about it, maybe you have too. Or worse, we can get hurt by the “10” reaction, when it usually has nothing to do with us!
Today, just realize that nobody else lives up to your standards and values, so don’t worry about it! You can’t control them. Just worry about what you can control – your own actions and decisions. However, be sure to apply the grace necessary to let yourself mess up a little, as well.
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In great faith,
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