You’re probably familiar with the “lottery mentality”… right? Those people, yourself possibly included, just waiting to get lucky and win the lottery. “Oh man, if only I won the lottery I would be able to pursue all my dreams…” And everyone has a whole laundry list of things they would do if they won.

Apparently the only thing standing between you and your dreams is a scammy lottery that has sold you on the idea you have to “get lucky” to achieve your goals. What’s even more depressing is witnessing people apply this lottery mindset to their relationships!

“If only I could meet the right partner…” or “If only I got along with my manager better.” I’m sure you’ve had challenges like that before, where you seem to constantly butt heads with other people, whether it’s your spouse, kids, manager or even your clients.

I still remember a conversation that took place with a close friend who was telling me how she was having major problems with her manager. I sort of stopped her and said, “Tell me why you trust me.” She said, “Because you’ve helped me through some really hard stuff. You loved me through the hard stuff, and you didn’t judge me for my mistakes, but you shared your mistakes.” I told her, “Exactly! That is why you trust me!”

It is not in the happy, easy times that you build trust. You develop trust with other people through bad situations and things you don’t want to confront. As long as you’re confronting issues from the right heart and with the right mind, that’s when good relationships are built.

People have it so backwards today. They think a good relationship means you never have an argument or a disagreement. That couldn’t be further from the truth! The truth is, a good relationship is built when you work through those times. It is built when you make it through the earthquake together. When you stick together through hard times, that’s when you see character come out. You get to see somebody’s heart and their motives, and trust is built through that.

So don’t be like most people, who believe a good relationship is always good, and everything is always perfect and everyone is happy all the time. That is a bunch of nonsense! That is a Disneyland fantasy – NOT a reality. People have that exact same mindset about money – “I hope to get lucky someday. All the rich people just got lucky and got the good jobs and know all the right people.” Have fun with that belief system, but don’t be surprised when you end up broke at 65.

If you want good, solid relationships in your life, and you want to be able to trust other people and yourself, you’ve got to get the skill sets to help you confront issues in order to bring restoration.

If you look at the people who have passed through your life and those who have stuck with you, were those the relationships you expected to last? I can bet you had many surprises! If you want to hit the relationship jackpot, it isn’t about finding the perfect people. It isn’t about working with the right team or for the right boss.

It’s about you! Have you stuck through the hard times with those people, or have you judged them for their missteps? Leave me your comments below and remember to Like and Share today’s message with your friends!

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In great faith,

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