Have you ever been hurt before? Abandoned, ignored, or faced with people who made promises and didn’t keep them? It’s called rejection. Some people (or actually, most people) still carry that rejection! Even decades later, your past rejection is affecting your life now, and you could be spreading it to others like a deadly disease. And it will sabotage you and kill your relationships!

Carrying around rejection or having a fear of rejection is like pressing the self-destruct button on relationships, business partners… and even your finances. Because if you carry rejection, you will actually see circumstances in a very skewed way. Depending on your personality, it can play out in a couple of different ways. See if any of these scenarios sounds familiar:

  1. This type of rejection carrier is looking for proof. They walk into a room looking for rejection! They will actually seek proof everyone is against them and everyone is somehow out to get them. Here’s a great example…Imagine you are in a conversation with a couple of people, discussing a totally non-threatening, casual topic. A person who carries rejection might perceive this topic as verbally threatening or feel like you are ganging-up on them. Even though the conversation isn’t even about them!This same person will walk into a room and if someone doesn’t immediately smile at them or say “Hi,” they think, “Oh, she doesn’t like me”… “He is against me”… or “I must’ve done something wrong.” They’ve actually twisted reality to find the proof.
  2. The rejection carrier tries to reject people first. This type of person can cause huge divisions among friendships and businesses! Basically, they will try to reject others first. It is most often done through gossip.They will take a conversation or situation like I mentioned above, and blow it all out of proportion or dramatize it later so they seem to be the victim — all so everyone will sympathize or “side” with them. All as if being the victim and having a little group of sympathizers (“a pity party”) will somehow soothe their past rejection.

Do you see how easily this could hurt or destroy relationships and cause major problems in your business? How far do you think you will get carrying that rejection? It isn’t making you money. It will not get you a promotion. It will not help you attract clients. It will not solve problems.

So don’t deal with it! Try not to take offense when others act this way, it comes from a place of hurt! As for yourself, you might need to seek healing or learn to stop doing these things to others, stop passing on that cycle of rejection.

We come from a society where we do not teach our kids how to manage emotional pain. And then our kids grow up with these issues and pass them on to their kids. Think about the people in your life. Have you ever seen one or more of them display these characteristics? DUH! In fact, the majority of the people I know deal with rejection. So, don’t you think you should pass this message around? Hit Like and share to start spreading your encouragement and help your friends and loved ones shed that fear of rejection.

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In great faith,

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