What Identity Are You Reflecting?
Have you ever felt the sting of rejection? People have said critical words about you, made you feel unaccepted. Then the next thing you know, you begin to reject yourself!
We all come to a place in our lives when we’ve got to make a decision: step up and do what it takes to get to the next level, or settle for mediocrity (or even failure). I learned a HARD lesson last week, and now, I’m sharing it with YOU!
How do you respond to challenges? Do you get all stressed, freak-out and lose sleep over it? Or do you stay calm, prioritize and tackle the problem? Do you totally shut down, paralyzed with fear – whether fear of making a mistake, fear of failing, fear of saying (or doing) the wrong thing, or whatever else may be your response? Or, do you remove the emotion and simply find a solution for the problem you’re facing?
Can I be honest? I like to think I can take out all of my emotions and just face the problem head-on… but most of the time, I get stressed-out and cower in fear. I’ve been known to over-analyze everything, and usually end up making the smallest problems much bigger. This is one of my HUGE weakness – and I know it.
In fact, last week I realized just how big this weakness grew, and how it affects every area of my life. (Okay, I didn’t just happen to realize it… someone shined a big, bright spotlight on it. And that SUCKED!)
But, as scary as it may be to admit this to the thousands who read this, I have hope! Why? Because Dani’s training, coupled with diligent work and dedicated effort, allows me to know I am capable of change and strengthening myself in this area.
THAT, my friend, is why I continue to plug in to all of the training Dani provides, like The Daily Fix, The Dani Johnson Show, First Steps To Success and Creating A Dynasty. That’s why I MUST follow the principles Dani teaches in “Job Domination and “Time Secrets”… because when I don’t, it’s NOT pretty!
I’ve been at this for almost five-and-a-half years now (first as a client, then as a team member), and I’ve noticed something very interesting during that time. When I “unplug” from all of Dani’s training, and even from the Destiny Global community of people, a shift takes place in my life. Unfortunately, I usually don’t notice this shift until someone else – in this case, my boss – points it out to me.
It starts with simple “compromises,” just letting little things slide a bit. But, when you compromise once, it seems like no big deal… EXCEPT it makes the next compromise easier, and the next and the next. Pretty soon, you constantly compromise, because that’s your “new normal.” That’s the standard you set for yourself. You’re no longer working to shore up your weaknesses. Heck, you don’t even see your weaknesses anymore!
So, how does this start showing up? For me, it’s “unplugging” from the content and training Dani shares. It’s being “too busy” to listen to The Dani Johnson Show today. It’s “I can’t make the next First Steps To Success… it doesn’t work with my schedule or flights are too expensive.” It’s believing my own excuses.
When that begins to happen, my work performance starts to slip. I’m “only” 5 or 10 minutes late; I choose to give 70% instead of 100%; I miss deadlines; I coast on my last success, instead of chasing the next one. And the list goes on. (I told you, NOT pretty.)
So tell me, what happens when an employee starts making these “compromises”? They don’t stay employed for long, do they?! What happens when a business owner does this? They lose business – fast! What happens when a stay-at-home parent does it? Their home and kids are a mess, it affects their marriage, and soon the whole house starts falling apart!
Why? Because of “little compromises.” Because a decision was made, and then repeated. Because YOU stopped working on you!
The truth is, we ALL are – or should be – in a constant state of being refined. We ALL have weaknesses. But, with the right training, along with consistent and conscious effort, we can overcome those weaknesses and move on to bigger and better things. This goes for your personal and professional life.
With that said, I encourage you to take a few minutes to evaluate yourself today. Be very particular about the questions you ask. Don’t ask, “Do I have any weaknesses?” Ask, “What ARE my weaknesses?” Don’t ask, “Am I making any compromises?” Ask yourself, “WHERE am I compromising?”
My friend, I am evaluating myself and making notes right along with you. I am dead serious about stepping up my game and overcoming these things that have been trying to taking me out. (Hello, if I weren’t, do you think I would be airing out my dirty laundry right now? HECK, NO!)
Now the question is, how serious are you? Are you ready to shore up your weaknesses? Are you ready to face these things head-on?
The compromises END HERE.
The excuses END HERE.
It’s time to let go of the things that are holding you back, give it all you’ve got and do what it takes to succeed.
I also want you to know I am here FOR you – and WITH you – every step of the way. I want to see you succeed. I want to watch your story unfold. So, if you’re ready to get started on this journey – whatever that looks like for you – leave me a comment below and let me know. I want to encourage you and do everything I can to help you along the way. We are in this thing together, after all!
Forever in YOUR corner,