What "Ripples" Are You Leaving On Your Pond?
I’m writing to you from Scotland today. I am here with 3 of my 5 children, and we are traveling around Europe, learning about and experiencing the history. I want […]
Do you let your circumstances define you? Or do you seek a pathway around them?
Who (or what) is your scapegoat? Maybe you’re thinking, “What? I don’t have any scapegoats!”
I’ve noticed whenever in my life I point the finger or put the blame on someone else – there are always 3 fingers pointing back at me. And it’s so true, because every time you try to put blame on someone else, chances are you are three times more at fault!
Succeeding in life means eventually you have to step back and take personal responsibility for whatever is going on in your life.
If you’re familiar with my story, you know that I used to be homeless. At the time, I placed the majority of the blame on two people. The first was a man I went into business with who embezzled from me. The second was my husband, who left me for another woman, stranded in Hawaii with $2.03 to my name.
And they weren’t the only ones! I had many more scapegoats in my life. But all the while, here’s what was happening. My excuses got bigger, my scapegoats were multiplying. My problems were getting bigger and so was my backside, gut and thighs! Hah.
Was I justified? Absolutely. But at the end of the day, I was young and stupid. I married a man after only knowing him for 7 days. I didn’t know anything about protecting my assets and trusted a businessman I should not have!
But this happens to a lot of people. You find a scapegoat and then you let that scapegoat start breeding and eventually that herd of “scapegoats” blocks your path! The fruit of that blame game is a defeated mindset: “I’m just never going to succeed”… “I’m just not meant to succeed financially”… “That just isn’t for me.”
I read a comment on our Facebook page the other day where a man wrote, “I’m unemployed and I don’t have no experience in those areas where the work is. So I can’t do what I want to do. This is reality, not a false hope-building statement.”
How sad… this man has totally defined his life by his circumstances! And you can quickly see the two scapegoats this man believes are keeping him from being employed.
Scapegoats won’t get you anywhere. In fact, they multiply and not only cause more hatred, disbelief and negativity, but they also cause more problems.
Instead of being one of those people who lets their circumstances define their entire life, be that person who seeks pathways around those scapegoats. Be that person who takes responsibility for their life and is like, “Alright, how do I get out of this mess?”
Who would you rather be? The person finding solutions and building success, or that person going nowhere and blaming everyone else? Let me know in the comments and remember to Like and Share today’s message of encouragement!
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In great faith,