Good morning! I’m not sure if you knew this, but I absolutely adore reading your comments and discussions on our Facebook page and on our website. It encourages and speaks life into me! Occasionally there are questions, frustrations or hardships people share that really touch me.

One in particular came from a woman asking a question about her husband last week and it really stuck with me, “Dani, how do I handle the challenges with my spouse not being on the same page, because it causes disunity in the home.”

And I’m sure you’ve been in a situation similar to this at some point. Even if you’re trying to pay off debt, go on a diet or achieve a goal, sometimes the other people in your life aren’t on the same page as you are. And especially if it’s your spouse, that can be a real problem!

You see, a lot of people say they want success, say they want to lose weight, make more money, get a better job. But they really don’t! They really just want to have a pity party and enjoy blaming everyone else for their state of life. And that’s okay. We are all at different points in our journey.

You can try to push people out of their ruts, but they might be having fun in there. Who knows how long it will take others to be ready to listen or actually pull themselves out of the hole!

So what are you supposed to do in this situation?

  1. The first thing you have to do, is stop trying to change people. You can’t control them and you can’t change them, no matter how hard you try. All you are doing is putting a strain on the relationship and if you push, you will push them away. It shows you don’t support them in their struggles. It shows them your agenda is more important than theirs.
  2. Love people where they happen to be in their life. Support them right where they are, realizing they might be at a different place than you in their life journey. When you are there for them, you will learn what motivates them and can just encourage that particular hot-button area!

Are you ready to encourage and love others where they are right now? Leave me your comments below and don’t forget to Like and Share this message. If you’re looking for more tips to decrease stress, better your relationships and uncover new strategies for success, join us for The Dani Johnson Show bright and early at 7 am, or on demand on your own time! You can tune in to the show on either your TV or radio and please remember you can always stream today’s show right here on our website.

In great faith,

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